Negotiation, Consent, ENM, Service, Education, and Personal Growth Enthusiast. Staff member of @serviceorientedcon.bsky.social and facilitator for the Service Chats. 18+ he/himhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mmc2pc2z4223 https://youtu.be/9NmuQyqPUjM?si=VpDW8_NapdbWCDgw20 May 2026 13:56 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mmc2pc2z4223https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mm3kt7c4zk2vOh no my service has been perceived! (🥰) [contains quote post or other embedded content]17 May 2026 23:56 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mm3kt7c4zk2vhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mlque43wsc2tThis month’s Service Chat features a presentation on Car Detailing for the Service Sub! Join us this Saturday to learn more about this timely topic: https://fetlife.com/events/2026/05/16/online-service-chats-car-detailing-for-the-service-sub-jarr7313 May 2026 17:47 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mlque43wsc2thttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mlqdswxjls2jI want nothing more than to be sitting under Sir’s desk while he works this morning. Dusty and plastic-ridden as it is. I want to be tucked in next to his legs and contained for at least a little while.13 May 2026 12:51 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mlqdswxjls2jhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mlmligkrsc22My head is not, as they say, in the game.12 May 2026 00:58 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mlmligkrsc22https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mlbnxaexnc2aI hope you have friends you can call up when you feel unsure and need a listening ear or a pep talk, without worrying that they’ll lose confidence in you when you share vulnerably. I hope when they tell you you’ve got this, you believe them.07 May 2026 16:43 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mlbnxaexnc2ahttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3ml4p32ncxs22I watched Pillion (2025) the other night. The only way I can wrap my head around Ray is through viewing him as a Manic Pixie Dream Dom. He’s a dominant ideal, yet he’s devoid of substantive personhood beyond Colin’s experiences with him. Maybe that makes their doomed relationship more tolerable.05 May 2026 17:20 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3ml4p32ncxs22https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mkxa7tuuas26I’m anxious about producing a conference for another year. I will do it. I love this conference. The team is more than capable and I endeavor to support them in whatever way I can. But we haven’t started planning yet and I already feel like I’m on the brink of sinking.03 May 2026 13:11 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mkxa7tuuas26https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mklsqa7poc2fThinking back to the recent past when Sir got me off and then punished me for it. =)29 Apr 2026 00:10 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mklsqa7poc2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mkiqyj4df22lTalented audiobook narrators will help get me through this year.27 Apr 2026 19:01 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mkiqyj4df22lhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mkebovrnb22ySpending the evening breathing through the anxiety at the possibility of being a creeper by reminding myself that even if I was a creeper, the event I went to won’t be happening again for at least six months, so anyone who thought I was a creeper gets at least that long a reprieve.26 Apr 2026 00:16 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mkebovrnb22yhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mkdmasl3es2lI cannot keep my chill around cute queer people, and I am in a space with many of them. Send me confidence. Sincerely, an awkward llama.25 Apr 2026 17:53 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mkdmasl3es2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mk2bvikoqk2hThe Pink Squirrel is a wonderful drink. :)22 Apr 2026 00:53 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mk2bvikoqk2hhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mjwhvngnik2zIt bothers me that there was less than half of the expected attendance for this past Service Chat, which featured a Black QT presenter focusing on Black service and body care. Maybe I could have done more than my usual advertising or promoted it differently, but I shouldn’t have had to.20 Apr 2026 12:30 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mjwhvngnik2zhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mjrpwtamic2gSir and I found out my years’ long desensitization to ticklishness has ended. It’s been a good life. Remember me fondly. XD18 Apr 2026 15:11 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mjrpwtamic2ghttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mjpoix4uo22cOkay, I need everyone to be kind to me (or intentionally mean to me in consensually approved ESM ways) for the next two days. I have had one too many conflict experiences this week and my nervous system is tapped out. Just two days, that is all I ask the universe.17 Apr 2026 19:40 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mjpoix4uo22chttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mjkhnbu7u227This month’s Service Chat features a presentation on, “Shea Butter Baby Service,” centering Black service for Black bodies. Join us this Saturday to learn more about service with radical authenticity and embracing oneself without compromise. Details here: https://fetlife.com/events/2026/04/18/online-service-chats-shea-butter-baby-service-8cisno15 Apr 2026 17:53 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mjkhnbu7u227https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3miz6bt4tck2dComing up in just a few hours! [contains quote post or other embedded content]08 Apr 2026 20:51 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3miz6bt4tck2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3miygoigp7s2jMe: “A dominant who isn’t you told me I was good and I feel a bit gross from it.” Sir: “Would it help if I told you you’re a complete pile of trash, my Boy?” Me: “Yes, actually, that helps a lot. Thank you, Sir.” (I hope this thoughtful human keeps me. ^_^)08 Apr 2026 13:48 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3miygoigp7s2jhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mivvdkahec2bTake me like the Control Devil in Chainsaw Man. Build up my life with happiness, purpose, and meaning, then destroy it all so my only refuge is at your feet with the rest of your dogs.07 Apr 2026 13:33 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mivvdkahec2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mip3chdujs2dOh boy, I get to play the, “Am I man/boy enough to be in this space for men/boys,” game again.04 Apr 2026 20:31 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mip3chdujs2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mils3wyfo22gI feel like I live in the land of Don’t Want But Still Need quite a bit.03 Apr 2026 13:08 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mils3wyfo22g