Negotiation, Consent, ENM, Service, Education, and Personal Growth Enthusiast. Staff member of @serviceorientedcon.bsky.social and facilitator for the Service Chats. 18+ he/himhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mtruzbo3dk23Life as a conference producer is taking several deep breaths and receiving one pep talk before purchasing 1,000 event cards to hand out for promo at in-person things. At least I got a good deal.23 Aug 2026 22:53 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mtruzbo3dk23https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mtjngwfplk2qWaiting to buy a new e-book as a reward for getting this draft PowerPoint done for work is proving to be a taller order than I thought. Who knew part of my life would be making 100% stacked bar graphs fit neatly on slides in various combinations.20 Aug 2026 16:17 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mtjngwfplk2qhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mswf6qlinc2mAt the risk of the question not being rhetorical, there’s a whole conference on the topic! @serviceorientedcon.bsky.social [contains quote post or other embedded content]13 Aug 2026 00:28 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mswf6qlinc2mhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3msvqy5d62k2gThis month’s Service Chat features a presentation on Tarot Reading as a Service! Join us this Saturday to learn more! https://fetlife.com/events/2026/08/15/online-service-chats-tarot-reading-as-a-service-e1xujp12 Aug 2026 18:27 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3msvqy5d62k2ghttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mstxncobek2dThere’s room in this world for a servant with a daddy kink, right?12 Aug 2026 01:21 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mstxncobek2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mstgxwbo7k2lWhen I think about the kind of producer I aspire to be, this clip of Sam Reich so committed to and happy with his shows that he’ll be this silly for the Internet to see is pretty close. https://youtube.com/shorts/8aykUxJYZ6Q?is=6hfw9K_nL9n8PPet11 Aug 2026 20:22 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mstgxwbo7k2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3msmgmzpsx226I’m listening to an M/M romance audiobook where one of the MCs shares my given name. It’s oddly gender affirming to hear my name used while they’re interacting (especially amorously). Even though they’re not referring to me, I can pretend for a minute, being that man. It’s neat.09 Aug 2026 01:28 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3msmgmzpsx226https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3msixcrxclk2jOh hey, I’ve been in the kink and BDSM Scene for over ten years! I guess I can’t say I’m new anymore XD07 Aug 2026 16:15 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3msixcrxclk2jhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3ms4aw5ruys24(CW: Panic play, digestive stuff) Spicy panic - When I had a spicy meal and some of the spice comes through while hyperventilating through panic play a short while later. I found it delightfully funny.02 Aug 2026 15:03 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3ms4aw5ruys24https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mrv7s2cufc2xWhile I love that data sleuthing is part of the job I get paid for, it grinds my gears when I uncover changes that are due to updated fields no one thought to inform us about! Grr.30 Jul 2026 19:54 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mrv7s2cufc2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mrqnyeopas25Life as a conference producer is recognizing when to have hard conversations, and then doing my best to not avoid them. Wish me fortitude.29 Jul 2026 00:25 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mrqnyeopas25https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mrl5rk35u22fI told the conference team I work with that I’m going through burnout. They were supportive and kind. I still feel anxious as heck about sharing it with them. It’s hard to know when sharing struggles allows people to give support or makes them feel burdened. I guess I’ll see.26 Jul 2026 19:51 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mrl5rk35u22fhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mrdll27yec2oOne of my favorite times of year! Please consider joining our fantastic volunteer team to help make this conference as good as it can be! [contains quote post or other embedded content]23 Jul 2026 19:37 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mrdll27yec2ohttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mrasp4beqs2uThis month’s Service Chat features a presentation on, “Craving Protocol, Fearing Protocol: Navigating RSD, Autism, & ADHD in Power Dynamics.” Join us this Saturday to learn about this insightful topic! Details here: https://fetlife.com/events/2026/07/25/online-service-chats-craving-protocol-fearing-protocol-hevfa622 Jul 2026 17:06 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mrasp4beqs2uhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mr3hsbxkh22vThis is your semi-annual reminder to vet your venues, hosts, organizers, educators, mentors, volunteers, and play/romantic/platonic partners. This includes me! Please vet me! Ask the questions and observe what information you need for your own awareness, values, and safety.20 Jul 2026 14:08 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mr3hsbxkh22vhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mqoqndpzm22iLife as a conference producer is breathing through unexpected changes the week of an event. Breathing through lack of communication on critical information. Breathing through contingency planning and backups for backups. Breathing through remaining compassionate while wanting to scream. Breathing.15 Jul 2026 12:42 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mqoqndpzm22i