Negotiation, Consent, ENM, Service, Education, and Personal Growth Enthusiast. Staff member of @serviceorientedcon.bsky.social and facilitator for the Service Chats. 18+ he/himhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mvnfm26p3c2eThere will be no Service Chat this Saturday due to some promotional exams I have to take for work. I hope you’ll join us on the third Saturday of next month for another round of service-focused education and discussion!16 Sep 2026 14:57 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mvnfm26p3c2ehttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mvktkuttck22I am honored to talk about The Value of A Collar for Ascend Hudson Valley’s last of their Becoming Leather series on Oct 24. It will be my first time presenting in-person in The Scene, with a powerhouse co-presenter to boot! Details here: https://fetlife.com/events/2026/10/24/becoming-leather-series-ayxziy15 Sep 2026 14:29 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mvktkuttck22https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mvgcyq3jpc2rBetrayal play, but make it so what one thought was a betrayal was actually a misunderstanding, so the betrayal floats around bouncing off the simultaneous relief like electrons, uncertain when and how to settle. ^_^13 Sep 2026 19:22 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mvgcyq3jpc2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mvarlzezos2iSir mentioned to me the other day that my attention to detail is a love language and I feel weird about that.11 Sep 2026 14:27 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mvarlzezos2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3muz5eo2dd225I was going to be so productive today but then I watched the video my older sister sent of my (estranged) father playing with my baby niece and my longing for what I had and lost and what I yearn for now is too overwhelming, so I guess not.08 Sep 2026 13:37 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3muz5eo2dd225https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3muv2jkfxi22bLife as a conference producer is sometimes staying on someone’s case (as kindly as possible) until all the information we need gets into the place it needs to. It feels kinda like how I imagine riding a bull might.06 Sep 2026 22:35 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3muv2jkfxi22bhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3munaxir7wk2aFootie pajamas can do wonders for a little’s heart. ^_^03 Sep 2026 20:09 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3munaxir7wk2ahttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3muijclv4pc2mThat’s it, I’ve sent enough anxiety-inducing emails for one evening. I can take care of anything else another day.01 Sep 2026 22:55 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3muijclv4pc2mhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3muhjgdanoc2eThat one must achieve a certain level of skill, experience, and social capital to be recognized as a valued member of the sooper secret club. Exclusivity can serve a purpose, and it’s one I take issue with. I think the more people know about and explore BDSM, the more opportunities for connection. [contains quote post or other embedded content]01 Sep 2026 13:25 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3muhjgdanoc2ehttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mucunukwqc2mIf you’re keen for a decadent breakfast idea, this recipe as a bagel sandwich is really tasty. The honey is key, though, to balance out the salt. https://www.foodandwine.com/shaved-halloumi-eggs-12016123?utm_source=pinterest&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=mobilesharebutton230 Aug 2026 17:02 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mucunukwqc2mhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mu5pj7gto22qSometimes I feel like I’ve lost my ability to be a person. It feels like a part I used to know so well; I can’t see where I should be saying my lines, I remember how well I used to sell them. But I haven’t done that role in so long that it feels almost foreign, and it costs me to have lost it.28 Aug 2026 15:47 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mu5pj7gto22qhttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mu2wjvu45c2s“Your birthday’s soon. I know your address.” #7worderotica27 Aug 2026 13:15 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mu2wjvu45c2shttps://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mtruzbo3dk23Life as a conference producer is taking several deep breaths and receiving one pep talk before purchasing 1,000 event cards to hand out for promo at in-person things. At least I got a good deal.23 Aug 2026 22:53 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mtruzbo3dk23https://bsky.app/profile/inquisitiveelle.bsky.social/post/3mtjngwfplk2qWaiting to buy a new e-book as a reward for getting this draft PowerPoint done for work is proving to be a taller order than I thought. Who knew part of my life would be making 100% stacked bar graphs fit neatly on slides in various combinations.20 Aug 2026 16:17 +0000at://did:plc:asyenneafdloki2yokwlrakr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mtjngwfplk2q