Founder of Downshift. I help high performers navigate transition and answer life’s biggest questions.https://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcpuzeuv5c2b07 Dec 2024 14:14 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcpuzeuv5c2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcg6vscu3s2dThe longer I’m alive, the less I know who I truly am. Each time I think I’ve figured it out, life humbles me with a new revelation, a new truth. Our sense of self isn’t fixed but endlessly unfolding. What if the goal isn’t to find yourself, but to let go of needing to?03 Dec 2024 17:44 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcg6vscu3s2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcc2lzaqrc26Things I love in my 40s: ✍️ Writing 🧘‍♂️ Meditation 📚 Philosophy 🍄 Psychedelics 🌳 Time in nature 🛏 Rest and sleep 🌄 Early mornings ❤️ Helping others 👨‍👩‍👧 My wife and kids 🏢 Calm companies ✨ The higher power 💬 Deep conversations 🎶 Neo-classical music What do you love?02 Dec 2024 02:16 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcc2lzaqrc26https://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcbv24bhfc2cThings I loved in my 20s but no longer care for in my 40s: 💰 VC 💻 Tech 🌱 Weed 🥃 Booze 🏈 Sports 🎵 Pearl Jam 🤝 Networking 🎮 Video games 🕺 Music festivals 🚀 Startup culture 🥇 Winning at all costs Funny how priorities shift. What about you?02 Dec 2024 00:37 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcbv24bhfc2chttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcbljaajks2cWhen I began to see my body as a vessel for life, I stopped worrying about people stealing “my ideas.” Releasing my ego, I saw that others replicating my ideas is just life unfolding as it’s meant to. It’s been a potent shift—a release of control and an embrace of emergence.01 Dec 2024 21:46 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcbljaajks2chttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcbim4gmek2qI’ve received more than a dozen emails this week asking when this year’s edition of my annual review will launch. Downshift will release the 2024 edition this Friday, Dec. 6th. This marks the most radical change to the review in seven years. I promise it’ll be worth the wait.01 Dec 2024 20:54 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcbim4gmek2qhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcbfda2kok2qWho should I follow on here? Looking for people who are interested in elevating the consciousness of humans and the planet.01 Dec 2024 19:56 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcbfda2kok2qhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lcauc6jgts2rThere’s something incredibly refreshing about starting on a new social platform. For years, I struggled to engage on X—it was triggering and felt overly performative. I see this platform as a clean slate—a space to show up authentically, not to perform or achieve, but to express and connect.01 Dec 2024 14:51 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lcauc6jgts2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lc7a2ric3k2hI'd like to reintroduce myself. I'm Steve Schlafman. My friends call me Schlaf (pronounced "shh-laugh"). I'm a girl dad, husband, writer, book worm, meditator, tree hugger, and much more. Professionally, I'm an executive transition coach and Founder of Downshift. I'm honored to be here with you.30 Nov 2024 23:16 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lc7a2ric3k2hhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lc4yppgsn22h“There are moments in life when we are reminded that we are unfinished, that the story we have been telling ourselves about who we are and where our life leads is yet unwritten. Such moments come most readily at the beginning of something new.” —Maria Popova30 Nov 2024 01:59 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lc4yppgsn22hhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lc4ghappps2nSurreal to see Downshift featured in Think:Act Magazine’s September issue alongside 37Signals, the Slow Food Movement, Oliver Burkeman, and so many of my influences. The theme of this issue: “Take Your Time: How pacing yourself is good for mind, body, and business.”29 Nov 2024 20:32 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lc4ghappps2nhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lc3slhyknk2gThis book should be required reading for the school of life. Reading it for a second time this year. Mind and soul expanding.29 Nov 2024 14:37 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lc3slhyknk2ghttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lbzr4t2ls22rHappy Thanksgiving to you and yours from upstate New York 💚28 Nov 2024 19:05 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lbzr4t2ls22rhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lbzgsofbzc2rGratitude isn’t always visible or loud. It’s often quiet, woven into the fabric of our everyday lives, waiting to be recognized. It feels less like a single feeling and more like a thread—binding moments, contrasts, and truths. https://www.wheretheroadbends.co/p/a-thread-of-gratitude28 Nov 2024 16:01 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lbzgsofbzc2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3lbx3vvymnc2dOur relationship with our bodies can transform when we stop seeing them as machines to be perfected and start honoring them as vessels for life to be expressed.27 Nov 2024 17:40 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3lbx3vvymnc2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jujhf62dam2jInterest in the coaching profession is at an all time high. Recovering founders and execs email me weekly asking how I became a coach and built a successful practice. Here’s my journey and everything I wish I knew when I got started 6 years ago👇 https://open.substack.com/pub/wheretheroadbends/p/the-path-to-becoming-a-coach-13d?r=1bt3z8&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post29 Apr 2023 15:35 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jujhf62dam2jhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jt7g5ymstl2oMy day ended at 4pm and it was 80 degrees out, so I said fuck it and went for a hike. You can’t put a price on the freedom and flexibility solopreneurship offers.12 Apr 2023 22:21 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jt7g5ymstl2ohttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jt467qcgac2eDon’t judge me for wearing Keens11 Apr 2023 15:21 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jt467qcgac2ehttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jt43wtpymm2aAll the people I want to hang out in real life are here.11 Apr 2023 14:40 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jt43wtpymm2ahttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jt2chrz66c2tCancelled my last meeting of the day. Had a good excuse.10 Apr 2023 21:32 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jt2chrz66c2thttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jszrraa5uc2sNothin’ but blue skies in the Catskills today 😍10 Apr 2023 16:33 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jszrraa5uc2shttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jszkzokzr22hThere’s something raw and refreshing about my feed here. No threads. No thought bois. No crypto or AI hot takes. No screams for attention or influence. Just people sharing themselves.10 Apr 2023 14:32 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jszkzokzr22hhttps://bsky.app/profile/schlaf.bsky.social/post/3jsy3siylkk2pIt’s nice to be here. There’s something incredibly freeing about starting from scratch.10 Apr 2023 00:27 +0000at://did:plc:celh6mt44mdgkry2npaa42vm/app.bsky.feed.post/3jsy3siylkk2p