Hi! I’m Bella - Retired Sex Therapist & your favorite Swinger Wing-Girl! Pineapple Tips & Flirty Fun! I ♥️ Newbies, got questions? Ask away!https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrvjy4x722iIt’s actually mind boggling how much closer ENM can bring you…I never would have believed it if I hadn’t experienced it myself! Thoughts?26 Feb 2026 19:10 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrvjy4x722ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrvhsob7s2iYou don’t have to be perfect at this, but you should always be mindfully striving for growth…26 Feb 2026 19:09 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrvhsob7s2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrvglg6v22iThese are the things that matter when you hit bumps in ENM…26 Feb 2026 19:08 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrvglg6v22ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrvfeqgic2iSo don’t freak out with the first bump in the road. Instead, do your best to prepare yourselves with strong communication & conflict resolution strategies so you feel prepared and connected even in conflict.26 Feb 2026 19:07 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrvfeqgic2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrvcmgbxk2iFacing challenges together without attacking one another makes our relationships stronger ♥️26 Feb 2026 19:06 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrvcmgbxk2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrvazudkc2iYou’re setting yourself up for disappointment if you go into ENM with unrealistic expectations…you’re both still human!26 Feb 2026 19:05 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrvazudkc2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfrv6yfv3k2iWe’re way more similar than we are different!26 Feb 2026 19:04 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfrv6yfv3k2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mfkkjssqkk271️⃣ Becoming a swingr will not fix your relationship. It will amplify whatever is already there. Strong foundations get stronger. Cracks get larger & louder. (Agree? Tell me your thoughts in the comments and follow for more♥️💋)23 Feb 2026 21:04 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mfkkjssqkk27https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mdllg3scs22hWhat do YOU refuse to feel guilty about?29 Jan 2026 20:03 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mdllg3scs22hhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3mdglgzvmsk2h1)shit-talking other swingrs play style/orientation, 2) ignoring your partner when they need you, 3) Ghosting, 4) Taking one for the team, 5) Assuming jealousy means someone ‘isn’t right for ENM’ - thoughts? What are some things YOU avoid in the LS?27 Jan 2026 20:20 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3mdglgzvmsk2hhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lrldai6hp222Speaking up about intentions won’t ruin connections but staying quiet might. Flirting all night with no plan to play? That’s fine, just say so early. People deserve to know where you stand so they can invest their energy wisely. Being clear is sexy. Mixed signals aren’t. #ENM #speakup #dontbeshy14 Jun 2025 16:03 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lrldai6hp222https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lqkv2rq4u22pLove these sparkly shoes but I have the hardest time keeping the straps up! Anyone have any good tips?01 Jun 2025 18:24 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lqkv2rq4u22phttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lqkuy73a522pWe decided to go to a toga swinger party about an hour before it started. At first I thought I might have to dress off-theme…but luckily I was able to pull something together! #swinger #togaparty #sparkle #fun #enm01 Jun 2025 18:22 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lqkuy73a522phttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lprrnnhstc2cSurvey says... ⬇️ One woman on Family Feud said she’d invite her best friend ❌ Her opponent said, "I wouldn’t go," which was the #1 answer. I think some women who think they'd hate it would actually be surprised how fun it is! What’s your take? #familyfeud #nonmonogamy #waitwhat22 May 2025 18:46 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lprrnnhstc2chttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lpprkb33kc23Here’s the truth: Betrayal sucks - but you can handle it. You've survived hard things before, and you’ll do it again. Trusting your partner is important…and so is trusting yourself! Don’t confuse control with safety. #brokentrust #relationshipadvice #keepingitreal21 May 2025 23:39 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpprkb33kc23https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lpmposun5s2lDon’t believe every stupid thought you have. In ENM, fears & insecurities can cloud judgment. When doubts arise, pause & choose curiosity, not assumptions & reactivity. #TrustYourPartner #NonMonogamy #HealthyRelationships #enm #swingers #swinger20 May 2025 18:28 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpmposun5s2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lndqjdvxxs23Anything? Do they even know you’re ethically non-monogamous (or considering it)?21 Apr 2025 17:58 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lndqjdvxxs23https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lhyvlydh2c2bWhen validating on swinger apps, DON’T just use the template validation! Take a minute to customize! It makes a great impression on both the people you validate AND you! Here are some examples of high quality validations we’ve received! ♥️💋 #swinger #ethicalnonmonogamy #enm #datingadvice #cnm12 Feb 2025 19:24 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lhyvlydh2c2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfqu6a73622lCareful not to over-edit profile pics! We once went on a date with someone who was literally unrecognizable based upon their profile pic. A little polish is totally fine. Like you’d see in wedding photos or senior portraits. But keep it subtle. You want them to be excited to see you, not confused!15 Jan 2025 03:47 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfqu6a73622lhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfnyokpios2lWhere is YOUR favorite place to buy lingerie?14 Jan 2025 00:29 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfnyokpios2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfnynpbpt22lCalling all lingerie lovers!! Omg, I totally freakin LOVE this company! Everything I own from them is GORGEOUS, well made and high quality! Check out coquette.com and use code BELLASWEET to get an additional 15% off your order…even on sale items!!! #lingerie #lingerieaddict #swinger #enm14 Jan 2025 00:29 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfnynpbpt22lhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfktqpnjok2aSomething fun to consider…How many STRAIGHT women could you handle AND satisfy at once? (So these women won’t be playing with each other…they’re relying on YOU to keep them entertained and satisfied)…12 Jan 2025 18:23 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfktqpnjok2ahttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lffkg7x35c26Will we see you there? 😈🥳10 Jan 2025 15:53 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lffkg7x35c26https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfeguppdic26You should totally coooome! Get your tix here… https://nlw.ticketspice.com/nlw?r=FLIRTY924110 Jan 2025 05:17 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfeguppdic26https://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfaiazihhs2xFor the full caption on pair bonding, check out TheFlirtyPineapples on IG Instagram.com/theflirtypineapples https://Instagram.com/theflirtypineapples08 Jan 2025 15:31 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfaiazihhs2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfai66wwrc2xInterestingly, the couples that gain the most enjoyment from the lifestyle & face the fewest obstacles ALSO are an amazing match in those exact 4 areas. Go figure. Pair bonding & ENM are NOT mutually exclusive. They can and very often DO co-exist! Thoughts?08 Jan 2025 15:29 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfai66wwrc2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfai4kczys2xSo let's talk about what pair-bonding actually IS & how it's impacted by engagement in ENM… Simply put, pair bonding is forming intimate connections with partners. They are most likely to form when there is a match in 4 areas: smex, romance, attachment & friendship. (see next post)08 Jan 2025 15:28 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfai4kczys2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfai2pixgs2xI mean, it makes sense, right? If this theory were even remotely true, most men would have depleted their entire oxtocin reserve by age 16 through self-care alone! (see next post)08 Jan 2025 15:27 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfai2pixgs2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfahzsrwb22xOh, & while we're on the subject of actual science, there are NO STUDIES suggesting that any gender is at risk of their oxytocin 'reserves' somehow 'drying up' based upon overuse. (see next post)08 Jan 2025 15:27 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfahzsrwb22xhttps://bsky.app/profile/theflirtyswingers.bsky.social/post/3lfahybc3nc2xFirst of all...seriously?? Second, according to the National Institute of Health, men release more oxytocin during origami than women, sooo...yeeeeah. (see next post)08 Jan 2025 15:26 +0000at://did:plc:eawu5p5p3ewqiioxrrvb2vtn/app.bsky.feed.post/3lfahybc3nc2x