The pedestrian you honked at on Powell St. Adoptee. East Van.https://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3mrnwrbbxi22jAny fellow adoptees struggle maintaining relationship with adopters? 50+ years of being a NPC in someone else's story has become intolerable. It's one thing to feel invisible, it's another to be reminded at every interaction. Is it that hard to ask how I am occasionally? I'm at a loss.🥚 #adopteesky27 Jul 2026 22:24 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3mrnwrbbxi22jhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3mq4xoxceyc2dSpouse & I are traveling w/ our bio-kids plus my adoptive mom & adoptive brother. Challenging because the biological mirroring & ease we have w/ our kids highlights what always was, and still is, lacking in my adoptive family. We pretend but it's fake. And on some level, we all know it. 😬 🥚08 Jul 2026 11:00 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3mq4xoxceyc2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3mjxjseqob22gAdoptees, what do you do when meeting adopters with young adoptees in real life? At a funeral on Saturday, I told a new acquaintance that her daughter was beautiful. Just small talk. She replied, "As soon as I saw her photo, I knew she was meant to be ours." Oof. 😬 🥚20 Apr 2026 22:37 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3mjxjseqob22ghttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3mioplq2ofs2lAdopter exceptionalism is exhausting. Feigning ignorance of systemic harm & believing their own saviourism. Adoptees deserve better. Yes, even yours. 🥚04 Apr 2026 17:01 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3mioplq2ofs2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3mbvmc5k4pc2uWatched Netflix Harlan Coben before & regretted it. But the latest has all variations of trafficked people: murdered adoptees, former foster kid hitmen, donor-conceived side-plot, DNA seach ends bad, abusive fosterers, biomother inadvertently kills relinquished child, cult sells"stillborn" babies. 🥚08 Jan 2026 08:54 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3mbvmc5k4pc2uhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3mad534cfyc2fAfter directing an array of derogatory language at me, Super Dave found himself a nontoxic adoption community elsewhere! Highly likely to be a community of adopters, not adoptees. Godspeed Dave, Godspeed. 🥚 [contains quote post or other embedded content]19 Dec 2025 07:09 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3mad534cfyc2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3maakeya63k2sI missed responding to this ̵cringe potato. Heaven forbid we prioritize stopping human trafficking over their need to purchase someone else's child. What a day to be an adoptee! 🥚18 Dec 2025 06:29 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3maakeya63k2shttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3ma7ubx2zzk2yAdoption answers a child's desire "I want my mommy" w/ severance & abandonment to strangers. The best interest of the child is maintaining that primal relationship while mitigating harm. Yet, the racist & colonialist adoption system prioritizes interests of sellers (agencies) & buyers (adopters). 🥚 [contains quote post or other embedded content]17 Dec 2025 23:54 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3ma7ubx2zzk2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3m7qfowhuys2pThe matter-of-factness with which this was communicated. As though no harm was done. Adoptees, what childhood comments trigger silent rage? Mine are "your birth mother loved you so much she gave you away" and the weird false promise of "you can look for her (bio-mom) when you're grown-up." 🥚 [contains quote post or other embedded content]11 Dec 2025 20:23 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3m7qfowhuys2phttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3m7nuxojvvs2iMy first photo; apparently at one month old, meeting my adoptive mother. The look/furrow on my face really reads, "who the heck are you??" 🥚 [contains quote post or other embedded content]10 Dec 2025 20:18 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3m7nuxojvvs2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3m7jlwalkzc2w𝑾𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒔. 🔥 💯 🥚 [contains quote post or other embedded content]09 Dec 2025 03:25 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3m7jlwalkzc2whttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3m7jlkmdqck2wThis 100%. #AdoptionIsTrauma #AbolishAdoption [contains quote post or other embedded content]09 Dec 2025 03:19 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3m7jlkmdqck2whttps://bsky.app/profile/loftwerks.bsky.social/post/3m7jkj45cpk2wAdoption answers a child's most basic, universal request of "I want my mommy" with severance & abandonment w/ strangers. The best interest of the child is maintaining that primal relationship while minimizing harm - typically caused by poverty. Guardianship instead of ownership. 🥚 [contains quote post or other embedded content]09 Dec 2025 03:00 +0000at://did:plc:jgpbehperw7p2d7tyusggb7n/app.bsky.feed.post/3m7jkj45cpk2w