#cPTSD #recovery ❤️‍🩹 Recovering from trauma is among the most heroic things we can do. We can heal. Personal thoughts on mental health & strength training w/a touch of science 🏋🏾🏋🏻 🖋️ scribendo cogito "I think by writing" #lifewritinghttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mquq53niu22dWhat’s more infuriating to a survivor than someone mistaking privilege for discipline, a safe upbringing for courage, or shaming others as wisdom? Remember, their misunderstanding doesn't erase what we survived, what happened to us mattered. Their privilege doesn't diminish our strength. ❤️‍🩹 #cptsd17 Jul 2026 21:48 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mquq53niu22dhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mquq53niu22dWhat’s more infuriating to a survivor than someone mistaking privilege for discipline, a safe upbringing for courage, or shaming others as wisdom? Remember, their misunderstanding doesn't erase what we survived, what happened to us mattered. Their privilege doesn't diminish our strength. ❤️‍🩹 #cptsd17 Jul 2026 21:48 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mquq53niu22dhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mpr6qwp2mc2lEvery moment of self-compassion is a step towards recovery. Be kind to yourself, always. ❤️‍🩹 I’ll be taking a break for a bit 🙏🏼. Still working my recovery, day at a time.03 Jul 2026 18:34 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mpr6qwp2mc2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3moxzwwgtnk2bOne of the cruelties of trauma recovery is realizing that perfection was never going to make our childhoods whole. We were deceived, perhaps for decades - most of recovery is acceptance and grieving. The light: We have a chance to build a life now, based on the values we choose. #cptsd23 Jun 2026 18:32 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3moxzwwgtnk2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3moxzwwgtnk2bOne of the cruelties of trauma recovery is realizing that perfection was never going to make our childhoods whole. We were deceived, perhaps for decades - most of recovery is acceptance and grieving. The light: We have a chance to build a life now, based on the values we choose. #cptsd23 Jun 2026 18:32 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3moxzwwgtnk2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3movfbb5qz223It's never gonna be fair that trauma recovery requires fixing what other people broke. But unfair isn't the same thing as impossible. We can acknowledge the injustice & we can heal. Every small recovery step forward is a refusal to let others' actions continue programming our lives. ❤️‍🩹 #cptsd22 Jun 2026 17:16 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3movfbb5qz223https://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3movfbb5qz223It's never gonna be fair that trauma recovery requires fixing what other people broke. But unfair isn't the same thing as impossible. We can acknowledge the injustice & we can heal. Every small recovery step forward is a refusal to let others' actions continue programming our lives. ❤️‍🩹 #cptsd22 Jun 2026 17:16 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3movfbb5qz223https://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3monjybln2s2gMany recoveries need to learn to harness the f*ck ’ems. We can use anger to set boundaries and protect our recovery values. Its a fuel we can use to consistently turn to healing, so f*ck ’em, we ain't abandoning ourselves. A spite recovery can still be a good recovery. #cptsd19 Jun 2026 14:19 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3monjybln2s2ghttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3modjxsopz22gMy piece was picked up by Know Thyself, Heal Thyself! From Tony Robbins to Mel Robbins, the mindset grift is everywhere. Despite this, adopting a new mindset offers surprisingly little strategic guidance for trauma recovery; too often, it’s used to bully and shame survivors. tinyurl.com/uacast26 https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/the-grift-of-the-social-media-self-help-coach-8b1be67748c6?sk=7aa215374d3e071eeaa32bcbc7f9e0c115 Jun 2026 14:52 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3modjxsopz22ghttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3modjxsopz22gMy piece was picked up by Know Thyself, Heal Thyself! From Tony Robbins to Mel Robbins, the mindset grift is everywhere. Despite this, adopting a new mindset offers surprisingly little strategic guidance for trauma recovery; too often, it’s used to bully and shame survivors. tinyurl.com/uacast26 https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/the-grift-of-the-social-media-self-help-coach-8b1be67748c6?sk=7aa215374d3e071eeaa32bcbc7f9e0c115 Jun 2026 14:52 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3modjxsopz22ghttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3moba3b2y7k2kExcellent article, worth a read. "One of the cruelest surprises of trauma recovery is that healing often makes you less functional before you feel better." "Yet the reality is, forgiveness is not a milestone, and it is not required. Healing comes through mourning." Much more! tinyurl.com/yc84ftu8 https://tinyurl.com/yc84ftu814 Jun 2026 16:50 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3moba3b2y7k2khttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3moba3b2y7k2kExcellent article, worth a read. "One of the cruelest surprises of trauma recovery is that healing often makes you less functional before you feel better." "Yet the reality is, forgiveness is not a milestone, and it is not required. Healing comes through mourning." Much more! tinyurl.com/yc84ftu8 https://tinyurl.com/yc84ftu814 Jun 2026 16:50 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3moba3b2y7k2khttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mo3plp7go22m"People have this idea that PTSD is about what happened to us, and it is— but CPTSD is mostly defined by what it gets us to believe. The lies it gets us to believe." https://useyourdamnskills.com/2026/06/11/cptsd-is-a-lying-liar-that-lies/12 Jun 2026 12:12 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mo3plp7go22mhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mo3plp7go22m"People have this idea that PTSD is about what happened to us, and it is— but CPTSD is mostly defined by what it gets us to believe. The lies it gets us to believe." https://useyourdamnskills.com/2026/06/11/cptsd-is-a-lying-liar-that-lies/12 Jun 2026 12:12 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mo3plp7go22mhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnx7czq4n22aBefore recovery, while struggling with professional impostor syndrome, #growthmindset seemed like the answer. But it never quite solved my problems. Only recently, I discovered much of the mindset hype was unfounded. Here's some things I've been reading & thinking: #cptsd tinyurl.com/4uw3pbyj https://tinyurl.com/4uw3pbyj10 Jun 2026 17:10 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnx7czq4n22ahttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnufwnre4k2fThe “could haves” will eat survivors alive if we don’t treat who we are right now with empathy, compassion & dignity. The toxic combination of hindsight and fantasy will derail the commitments we've made to ourselves today. Work on today. That's where all of our power lies. #cptsd #recovery09 Jun 2026 14:30 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnufwnre4k2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnufwnre4k2fThe “could haves” will eat survivors alive if we don’t treat who we are right now with empathy, compassion & dignity. The toxic combination of hindsight and fantasy will derail the commitments we've made to ourselves today. Work on today. That's where all of our power lies. #cptsd #recovery09 Jun 2026 14:30 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnufwnre4k2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnsoyl5zl22fOn the writer's anvil: Shame lacks an internal fight response. Shame’s action is to shrink into nothingness, to blink out of existence, to crawl into a hole. The pain of shame’s exposure and visibility can only be resolved through invisibility, through self-erasure. #lifewriting #cptsd08 Jun 2026 22:07 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnsoyl5zl22fhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnsoyl5zl22fOn the writer's anvil: Shame lacks an internal fight response. Shame’s action is to shrink into nothingness, to blink out of existence, to crawl into a hole. The pain of shame’s exposure and visibility can only be resolved through invisibility, through self-erasure. #lifewriting #cptsd08 Jun 2026 22:07 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnsoyl5zl22fhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnn6mfgxes2cHumans have dealt with immense loss & grieving as a sacred process; a period of sacred time that receives our genuine attention and care. Recovery is always about grieving, the loss of a childhood that should have been. But recovery is about meaning-making too, recovery is a sacred process.✨ #cptsd06 Jun 2026 17:31 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnn6mfgxes2chttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnn6mfgxes2cHumans have dealt with immense loss & grieving as a sacred process; a period of sacred time that receives our genuine attention and care. Recovery is always about grieving, the loss of a childhood that should have been. But recovery is about meaning-making too, recovery is a sacred process.✨ #cptsd06 Jun 2026 17:31 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnn6mfgxes2chttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3lrgbtuy3fc2bThere’s a special kind of grief. It arises not from loss, but from never having. Never having a parent's sufficient protection & care. Seeing another's family shower them with love can sting us. I thought it was jealousy; it’s not. Its grieving a childhood that should have been. #cptsd #recovery12 Jun 2025 15:54 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3lrgbtuy3fc2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3lnsuhaeswc2aOnce shame starts to lose its grip, trauma recovery work is grief work. Its mourning protections we didn't know, love we didn't feel, a childhood we didn’t have. Just know, grief is a sign of growth. Growth, if anything, requires some loss. It's real bitter, but grief needs to happen. #cptsd27 Apr 2025 18:19 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3lnsuhaeswc2ahttps://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnkobyjbdc27Here's a longer personal reflection on doing recovery writing on social media. Do I think its playing a small part in my recovery? Absolutely, I do. I try to explain a little about my method here. ❤️‍🩹💪🙏 tinyurl.com/6f37m8cc https://medium.com/@feats_strength/on-writing-recovery-aphorisms-book-i-053f1d8d9bb805 Jun 2026 17:33 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnkobyjbdc27https://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnkobyjbdc27Here's a longer personal reflection on doing recovery writing on social media. Do I think its playing a small part in my recovery? Absolutely, I do. I try to explain a little about my method here. ❤️‍🩹💪🙏 tinyurl.com/6f37m8cc https://medium.com/@feats_strength/on-writing-recovery-aphorisms-book-i-053f1d8d9bb805 Jun 2026 17:33 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnkobyjbdc27https://bsky.app/profile/featsofstrength.bsky.social/post/3mnhqeogt4s2rFear & anxiety feel like threats to our existence. With shame, our existence is the very problem. Fear asks us to retreat for protection; shame prefers we erase ourselves. We don't fix shame w/ fear exposure, we heal it by treating ourselves with care, with abundant self-compassion. #cptsd04 Jun 2026 13:33 +0000at://did:plc:prv45uzh3iddzcotu5dbrr52/app.bsky.feed.post/3mnhqeogt4s2r