I write books⤵️ FIRST LOVE LANGUAGE (Out now!) WHEN WE BECOME OURS (Out now!) LOVE MAKES MOCHI (Feb, 2026)https://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lys7degtks2lHaving vertigo in Taiwan means wondering if im experiencing an earthquake or if my inner ear is just being a little shit again 🤷‍♀️14 Sep 2025 11:38 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lys7degtks2lhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lxvu453okk2aI wasn't much of a tea person before I moved to Taiwan. Now I'm obsessed!! Green tea and oolong are my favorite and that caffeine rush?!?!? Yowza!!03 Sep 2025 05:02 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lxvu453okk2ahttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lxlbfv24f22eIts my 3rd week in Taiwan. I just woke up from a dream where my long-distance husband got a boyfriend and honestly, I wasn't mad. I was like "im happy you're exploring this side of yourself" lol30 Aug 2025 00:01 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lxlbfv24f22ehttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lx7zb6f2ls2pAs an adoptee in reunion, I find myself navigating another dynamic--being the caretaker of an aging mother. I feel like the timing of this reunion has forced me to jump into the deep end without wading in. Now I'm caring for the mother who never got a chance to care for me.25 Aug 2025 12:36 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lx7zb6f2ls2phttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lx5cnk53cs26Im dyslexic. Now that I'm in Taiwan learning Mandarin, my brain does that dyslexia buffer thing more often. Like I know I'm looking at words, but I can't read them. So I have to start my brain engine like 3 times before I can start comprehending what I'm seeing.24 Aug 2025 10:46 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lx5cnk53cs26https://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lx2ei4a5n22mThe cutest thing just happened. I taught my bio mom that in America, we say "thick" to mean that someone is fat in a complementary way. A couple days later, she still remembers this and says "my legs are thin but yours are...thick". Its just so freaking amazing to have a biological mom💖💖🥰23 Aug 2025 06:41 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lx2ei4a5n22mhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lwmx2rbd6k2vHot take but what if AI actually brings back critical thinking? We see a fake video online, feel ashamed that we fell for it, then learn to adapt. Learn to question the content we consume. Learn to navigate nuance. Wouldn't that be an unexpected twist?!17 Aug 2025 22:36 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwmx2rbd6k2vhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lwc56phc4s2yIt's daytime in the US and nighttime in Taiwan. Getting used to the time zone thing is gunna suuuuuck lol13 Aug 2025 15:26 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwc56phc4s2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lvnydmhtqs2rI feel so defeated as an adoptee every time I see another viral "we adopted an (insert non white race here) baby" video. Yet when ADOPTEES (not adoptERS) speak up about our real experiences, we get told to shut up, we get called ungrateful, and our stories sure as shit don't go viral.05 Aug 2025 15:06 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lvnydmhtqs2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lveh63oltk26Moving to Taiwan as an adoptee in reunion comes with so many mixed emotions. Like yes, im excited, but i haven't been this exhausted, numb, sad, and unmotivated in a long time.01 Aug 2025 20:05 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lveh63oltk26https://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lvcap5i6rc2cIm a bit of a compression sock ho. Long car rides? Compression socks✅️ Flights? Compression socks✅️ Walking my pup? Compression socks✅️ Do I have a medical condition that requires me to wear compression socks? Nope. But imma do it anyway lol31 Jul 2025 23:04 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lvcap5i6rc2chttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lusfamk6tk2yDespite genetically not being a likely candidate for a learning disability, I have dyslexia (and dysgraphia). But it wasn't until I realized that adoptees are 3x more likely to develop a learning disability that I really started to unpackage how deeply adoption trauma has impacted me25 Jul 2025 15:43 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lusfamk6tk2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lupy6yw2522yExciting translation news for FIRST LOVE LANGUAGE?!?!?!24 Jul 2025 16:44 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lupy6yw2522yhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3luleokexec2fSo im working on book 3 and my spouse just made me realize that the moral of the story im trying to tell is that we need to love our neighbors. Guys. I'm writing the Bible.22 Jul 2025 20:44 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3luleokexec2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lu6wk5qrhc2yhttps://youtu.be/K9XNaQxBVaY?si=N41NlUk2ZF2opxsf I'm so excited that I made this YouTube video, but for some reason the video quality sucks?! Oh well, it's still packed with lots of info on how to survive a book tour and working on the video quality gives me something to focus on for my next video!17 Jul 2025 21:59 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lu6wk5qrhc2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3ltmzgbr6pk2ohttps://youtu.be/6K_kRl4mKMM?si=TU2XQfG7lb9j-H_- Im moving to Taiwan next month and I'm documenting everything from my author life to my reunification with my mom! This is the first of many blogs I hope to make! Lmk what you think!10 Jul 2025 19:03 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3ltmzgbr6pk2ohttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lslum4wvuk2vCOVER REVEAL!! Add to GoodReads https://share.google/cEDZUKmik6VC7usCY27 Jun 2025 14:39 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lslum4wvuk2vhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lsebvct7ls22I love Texas land but I hate Texas crimes. Like fuck the ICE raids, racism, and limited access to education. But the June rainstorms and the wildlife is something I wish everyone could experience💖24 Jun 2025 14:15 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lsebvct7ls22https://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lsbslhwmjc2mI'm in Publisher's Weekly! https://www.publishersweekly.com/pw/by-topic/childrens/childrens-authors/article/98065-spring-2025-flying-starts-stefany-valentine.html23 Jun 2025 14:36 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lsbslhwmjc2mhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lrnwein5ck2oProud dog mama lol15 Jun 2025 16:50 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lrnwein5ck2ohttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lrdxlmfoks2nBahahha I just want people to read this book and scream at this character for being so in love and so deeply in the closet bahahahha11 Jun 2025 17:46 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lrdxlmfoks2nhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lr7a3juq322kWriting closeted queer girlies is my new favorite thing bc it's one way to bypass all the religious trauma and just memory walk all the queer moments that were real to me💖💖09 Jun 2025 20:34 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lr7a3juq322khttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lr6m3vggmk2wEekk!! FIRST LOVE LANGUAGEA is in great company! I've been meaning to pick up some of these books too! Happy summer reading yall! [contains quote post or other embedded content]09 Jun 2025 14:37 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lr6m3vggmk2whttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lqllqybu5k2v#BIPOCQTchat Actually, I'd love to support YOU! If you're an adoptee and want to break into traditional publishing, im hosting free monthly webinars for adoptees who wanna build community and raise our voices! Fill out this form: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1u0EujDGwEAZ5YdIQGmGWQRkmg_565d5GM42EUuZe4J0/viewform [contains quote post or other embedded content]02 Jun 2025 01:10 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lqllqybu5k2vhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lqlkpxfl4s2r#BIPOCQTchat I think of the next generation. What can I do to leave this world better than when I found it? Also, there's room for mixed emotion. Pride, peace ans joy for finally accepting myself for who I am. And rage, remorse, and longing, for what could've been if I hadn't grown up Mormon lol [contains quote post or other embedded content]02 Jun 2025 00:51 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lqlkpxfl4s2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/booksbystefany.bsky.social/post/3lqlk6gf3n22r#BIPOCQTchat omg I mean everything I write is influenced by my identity. But I always try to think of future generations who have to experience difficult things like queerness in high demand religion, adoption trauma, being mixed race in a world of boxes etc. Its about uplifting minority voices!! [contains quote post or other embedded content]02 Jun 2025 00:42 +0000at://did:plc:qfvdm4cxgefl7dzxft7cd36k/app.bsky.feed.post/3lqlk6gf3n22r