Psychologist.Trauma Expert. International Speaker. Consultant. Author. https://linktr.ee/dianelangberg?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=6b3b4f52-72f4-4cb4-9419-f034fba65a75https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mzkwzjwtbs2zContrary to popular belief, children are not resilient, a word that simply means they can return to their original state.   They do not “bounce back” from abuse.05 Nov 2026 13:12 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mzkwzjwtbs2zhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mziqepqx3s2qEvery time we treat someone with dignity rather than shame, respect rather than disregard, concern rather than exploitation, kindness rather than brutality, and careful attention rather than turning away—we are doing things that are the reverse of trauma and evil.04 Nov 2026 16:08 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mziqepqx3s2qhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mzdgestaok2qSuffering people often need others to have faith and hope for them. Admonitions to hope or trust often result in despair; if the sufferers were able, they would do so. It is often helpful to say, “I know you struggle to hope right now. I will hope for you.”02 Nov 2026 13:25 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mzdgestaok2qhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mz6apyoeyk2wJesus used His power to protect, to expose, and to restore dignity. He calls His people to live in the world, using our power under His authority, displaying His character by speaking truth, shedding light, and tending to and protecting the vulnerable.31 Oct 2026 12:01 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mz6apyoeyk2whttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myzuh5ef222iWhen you work with those who are suffering, you will have to learn how to wait. You will wait for a thought to bubble to the surface of a confused mind. You will wait for truth to penetrate a dark mind. You will wait while an addict fails again and old ground has to be reworked.29 Oct 2026 18:11 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myzuh5ef222ihttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myx4aoxzp22uClergy sexual abuse is not an affair; pedophilia is not about struggling with difficult circumstances; molesting adolescents is not about a struggling marriage. Such things must be called by their right names—the abuser needs to be held responsible for their abusive behavior.28 Oct 2026 15:52 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myx4aoxzp22uhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myv2eokvgs26God’s purpose is not to build up spectacular ministries or display brilliant minds or articulate tongues or pleasing, arresting personalities. God’s purpose is to make us like His Son. It is the only outcome that brings glory to the Father.27 Oct 2026 20:13 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myv2eokvgs26https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myroirwvqs2eIf we love the abuser, we will know that true repentance is slow and hard, and their words and promises cannot be trusted. Keep in mind that one of the most powerful weapons of deception is the use of spiritual language.26 Oct 2026 12:03 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myroirwvqs2ehttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myq2p5h66k2kWe often assume that if sufferers are bringing God’s glory into their suffering, they will not scream or bleed but sit quietly, hands folded, and smile peacefully. Glory is never found in such pretense.25 Oct 2026 20:36 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myq2p5h66k2khttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myhn3alzz22rSystemic abuse occurs when a system designed to serve people is instead destroying them—reducing, harming, wasting, and dehumanizing those created in the image of God.22 Oct 2026 12:11 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myhn3alzz22rhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myfgae2nfs25When we do not understand an abuser's capacity for deceit, we make it easy for the offender to continue in deception and, sadly, often call it “grace.” If it lacks truth, then it is not grace.21 Oct 2026 15:03 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myfgae2nfs25https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3myczcry2vs25It dishonors victims when we are silent about their experience or pretend it did not occur or was not important.   Talking says— I am here. What happened was wrong. I am damaged by it. Justice is needed and so is care for my broken heart.20 Oct 2026 16:06 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3myczcry2vs25https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mya3pdsg5k22If you try to handle the trauma of others without understanding its impact or knowing how to respond, you will damage those who are already severely hurt.19 Oct 2026 12:11 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mya3pdsg5k22https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3my6g4zvd4s2tYou can tell what is most important to someone by what they protect most vigorously. Looking at Christendom today, I frequently see that when the church is threatened, its energy goes into protecting the system.18 Oct 2026 20:12 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3my6g4zvd4s2thttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxuamyussk2yWhen allegations of abuse arise, particularly about a leader, many believe truth will “hurt” the church and so sin is excused, covered up, or given an innocuous name.  Such actions protect the institution, not the name or true body of Christ.14 Oct 2026 19:07 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxuamyussk2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxtt5jsigc2yIt is easy for us to simply accept what we are taught, especially if a Bible verse is attached, and assume it is God’s truth. Many of us confuse Christendom with Christ. Christendom is not the same as the living body of Christ. They have never been the same.14 Oct 2026 15:06 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxtt5jsigc2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxrg2wg46s2eTrauma stories do not first come out with a beginning, middle and an end. They come out in broken pieces, disordered and perhaps unclear.13 Oct 2026 16:07 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxrg2wg46s2ehttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxoie3rh622cWhen the church looks like Jesus Christ, those who are oppressed, afflicted, and maligned within the walls of their own homes will find a refuge in the body of Christ.12 Oct 2026 12:10 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxoie3rh622chttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxjhgenlqk2cWhen someone thinks verbal repentance and a few tears are all that is necessary for restoration to leadership or marriage, the addiction to deceit remains alive and well.10 Oct 2026 12:10 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxjhgenlqk2chttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxegkw4jgc2xChristians often fail to report the crime of abuse, thinking they are protecting family or some part of the church. Family and church are God-ordained institutions worthy of our protection. But God does not protect those institutions when they are enterprises full of evil.08 Oct 2026 12:11 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxegkw4jgc2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mxcfynks5s27You can wound or kill a soul by many means—the lack of physical scars does not mean abuse is not occurring. #DVAM #Every1KnowsSome107 Oct 2026 16:55 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mxcfynks5s27https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mx7t5pj4jk2mViolence behind closed doors is not an “out there” problem. It exists within the body of Christ. God speaks against abuse, and He protects the abused. So must His church if she is to be like Him. #DVAM #Every1KnowsSome106 Oct 2026 16:13 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mx7t5pj4jk2mhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mx55khad5224It is a grievous failure of those who claim to be the people of God when they not only fail to be a sanctuary for the traumatized but also create the need for one.05 Oct 2026 14:41 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mx55khad5224https://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mx37hgqufc2gWhen your life is blown up, your faith is too. It is a place of great struggle and one that threatens belief. Yet it is also where God can, over time, forge a new and deeper faith—not just for the trauma victim but for those who enter into the trauma with them.04 Oct 2026 20:10 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mx37hgqufc2ghttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mwtjk2dzl22cTo be silent about the magnitude of trauma in this world or in your own circles is to be complicit—to align oneself with those who carry out violence.01 Oct 2026 18:49 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mwtjk2dzl22chttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mwqmuirz3c2xThose involved in restoration should live lives of repentance, bear the fruit of the Spirit, and have the mind of Christ. Restoration is to be done with true humility. There is no room for harshness, superiority, or disdain.30 Sep 2026 15:10 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mwqmuirz3c2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mwnscljxhs2nThe greater the pain and destruction, and the more ravaged a life is by disease or trauma—the greater the care and nurture that should come from the body of Christ.29 Sep 2026 12:10 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mwnscljxhs2nhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mwlbqyroqk2rWe can allow ourselves to be deceived when we are vulnerable, hungry, enthralled, and given hope—especially when we are led by one we assume to be good who is, in fact, a prowling wolf. I pray that all our longings will be placed in the only safe place there is—the throne of our God.28 Sep 2026 12:08 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mwlbqyroqk2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mwjnifwhdc2nThere is no face God does not love, no life He does not weep over, and no evil or trauma He has not borne.27 Sep 2026 20:33 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mwjnifwhdc2nhttps://bsky.app/profile/dianelangberg.bsky.social/post/3mwb7wuuza22dThe church has failed victims horrifically. She has hidden abuse, been complicit in its soul-damaging outcomes, and too often accepted an abuser’s words of remorse and expressions of emotion as sufficient evidence of repentance.24 Sep 2026 12:09 +0000at://did:plc:tjhvwkuqqsofmdtrjvkvrktr/app.bsky.feed.post/3mwb7wuuza22d