he/him / #Blacklivesmatter / #LGBTQinChrist / 🐝 / Life on Side B podcast co-host / writer on faith, sexuality, theology, culture / my Substack: https://thegranthartley.substack.com/https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lzya5r4bxk27Confused about laws banning conversion therapy for minors? This week on the Substack, I ask Dr. Julia Sadusky to share her thoughts on Chiles V. Salazar, the soon-to-be-heard Supreme Court case on the constitutionality of banning conversion therapy for minors. Tolle lege! https://thegranthartley.substack.com/p/what-about-chiles-v-salazar-interview29 Sep 2025 14:34 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lzya5r4bxk27https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lyw4ytqigs2oIt would be one thing if his legacy and negative influence suddenly disappeared without a trace—but that is not what an assassination does. His legacy and influence have been cemented in many ways because of it, not erased.16 Sep 2025 01:07 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lyw4ytqigs2ohttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lylsp4zqfc25It should go without saying, but if our President wants to prevent further political violence in our country (rather than simply take advantage of it to further his own interests), it behooves him to rein in his own deeply violent rhetoric and policy decisions.11 Sep 2025 22:36 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lylsp4zqfc25https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lyktzhsks22sIt is not wrong or hypocritical to be horrified by the violent death of a political enemy, even if they said horrific things themselves.11 Sep 2025 13:27 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lyktzhsks22shttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lyatpwtx3k2git is wild to me how many people think that absolutely everything about being gay is rated R07 Sep 2025 13:55 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lyatpwtx3k2ghttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3ly75s5q4ms2fWhy would Catholics *not* want LGBTQ+ people to take part in a pilgrimage to pass through the Holy Door of Saint Peter’s Basilica for the Jubilee Year?06 Sep 2025 21:50 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3ly75s5q4ms2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3ly6ydy2ai22aI don’t need to be “included” in the Church as a gay person so much as I need to be taken seriously as a missionary disciple and recognized as an essential member of the Church already06 Sep 2025 20:12 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3ly6ydy2ai22ahttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3ly4lixoeus2rDo people really *choose* their beliefs? Or do we rather just find certain idea logical or illogical, and make choices to live in light of those ideas or not?05 Sep 2025 21:17 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3ly4lixoeus2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3ly2dqljr7c2mHow do y’all feel about armed security outside churches?04 Sep 2025 23:53 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3ly2dqljr7c2mhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lxu7tas5cs2rWould you not rejoice if God saved all people?02 Sep 2025 13:27 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lxu7tas5cs2rhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lxpgxlv7xc26Okay y’all: if I started a Substack series on theological questions people are too afraid to ask, because they worry they might sound silly, what questions would be helpful to address? I’m thinking questions like, “is the Eucharist magic?” or “is God more of a boy than a girl?”31 Aug 2025 15:51 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lxpgxlv7xc26https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lxgil7hl722rWhat are some things that draw LGBTQ+ people to the Catholic Church? I know there are plenty things that push us away. But what, in your experience, are the things that can attract us?28 Aug 2025 02:26 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lxgil7hl722rhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lxg6upa52c2j“It would be one thing if you were wrong—that I could take. But you are four distinct kinds of wrong, all mixed together into some kind of terrible Wrong Gumbo.”27 Aug 2025 23:32 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lxg6upa52c2jhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lx44ykcugk2yhow, HOW do people care this much about Cracker Barrel23 Aug 2025 23:32 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lx44ykcugk2yhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lwqzc36z2k2strying to tell my shy, reserved baby gay friend who has never been to a gay club that he would be quite popular there, without flirting with him: “you’re attractive, tiny, and you look like an accountant—be prepared”19 Aug 2025 13:27 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwqzc36z2k2shttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lwogzpbbb22byou know, I just love the way gay men run—the running gayt, if you will18 Aug 2025 12:55 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwogzpbbb22bhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lwmcwveeqk24the sound of fussy babies and squirmy children is a sign of a healthy church community17 Aug 2025 16:36 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwmcwveeqk24https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lwfjwb5wz222yeah okay, being earnest isn’t very cool but 1) being cool isn’t very important and 2) being known and loved and knowing and loving in return *is*14 Aug 2025 23:52 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwfjwb5wz222https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lwbvnqh4s223What is gossip? For those who view gossip as sinful, what is helpful for you in striving to avoid gossip?13 Aug 2025 13:12 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lwbvnqh4s223https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lw7elxvp6c2zomg the Lunk Alarm™️ just went off, I thought that was fake lol12 Aug 2025 13:01 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lw7elxvp6c2zhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lvrcz6otls26What is the most persuasive case you have heard for restricting the priesthood to men? No need to actually believe the case you put forward! Just looking for the strongest argument.06 Aug 2025 22:55 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lvrcz6otls26https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lvloapko4s2hwas talking with a few friends about whether or not a mutual acquaintance was going to end up pursuing the priesthood, and one of them offhandedly called the sense that someone will pursue religious life “praydar”04 Aug 2025 17:01 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lvloapko4s2hhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lut5sthp622oPotentially triggering socio-linguistic question for LGBTQ+ folks only: what are the things (tone, context, etc.) that indicate the word “f*ggot” is being used subversively, not hatefully? I’m thinking of things *outside* the sexual identity of the speaker.25 Jul 2025 23:03 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lut5sthp622ohttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3luqydcihpc2kPoverty allows us to more fully experience the spiritual riches given to us in Christ Jesus. Chastity allows us to give ourselves to God, others, and ourselves, and to love deeply. Obedience is a pathway to greater freedom—the freedom from our stubborn self-will.25 Jul 2025 02:19 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3luqydcihpc2khttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lufsyqgpvk2dHey fellow Catholics, pay attention during the first reading at Mass this week and next—it is important for understanding the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, and why it is about inhospitality, not gay people!20 Jul 2025 15:44 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lufsyqgpvk2dhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3luflcssixs2bthe Shakespeare sonnets you know: shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? the Shakespeare sonnets you do not know: YOU’RE SO BEAUTIFUL YOU MUST HAVE MY BABY WHAT IF YOU DIE20 Jul 2025 13:27 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3luflcssixs2bhttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3lu3xdkbwo222not sure what the problem is with letting kids see gay couples on television when they will almost certainly see them in real life16 Jul 2025 17:35 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3lu3xdkbwo222https://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3ltujk5a7ks2creflections on Revoice25 coming out on the Substack tomorrow13 Jul 2025 18:40 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3ltujk5a7ks2chttps://bsky.app/profile/thegranthartley.bsky.social/post/3ltubuu74gk2cWhile I was praying before an icon of Our Lady of Perpetual Help this morning, a toddler evidently playing a game of tag ran in front of me, grinning from ear to ear, and yelled confidently, “I’m in the safety zone!” Like an answer to prayer. 😭13 Jul 2025 16:23 +0000at://did:plc:ujdnmm4462cavd6eeuc5wfd6/app.bsky.feed.post/3ltubuu74gk2c