Queer • Parent • Neurodivergent Spilling the tea that is too hot for Threads ☕ 📍Montréal ⚜️🍁 Main: https://www.threads.net/@habaneroharlothttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.socialhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3movpdxpdq22xOnce upon a time he was my friend who said to me "hey, what that guy is doing is really fucked up and you deserve better" I really miss that friend. He disappeared the moment we got together. I know that friend would have told me "hey, what that guy is doing is super shitty, you deserve better"22 Jun 2026 20:17 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3movpdxpdq22xhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3movozhf7zs2xI've taken to saying "You don't want to fight, so let's not fight" and just totally stonewalling him. It's the crap he pulls on me when I try and voice my grievances to him—which either ends in that or him pulling reverse uno cards on me.22 Jun 2026 20:11 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3movozhf7zs2xhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3movob3tv2k2iIt's been about a year since I last posted about it, but I haven't forgotten about it. It's been on my mind every day since. Nothing has really changed on the surface, but I did my time mourning and I've been getting my shit together quietly.22 Jun 2026 19:57 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3movob3tv2k2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpzgqengjk2nHe lashed out at me today and told me that my family doesn't love me or our kids. He's wrong. They love us in their own way, just not in the way that we need.25 May 2025 19:52 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpzgqengjk2nhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpzenzhhx22nAlanis Morissette is such a vibe ❤️‍🩹 The woman speaks to my soul25 May 2025 19:15 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpzenzhhx22nhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpz7mgundc2iWhen the topic of separation comes up, his response is always: "I'm moving 7+ hours away where no one speaks English, no job opportunities for you, and you know no one. I will take the kids, because you can't be trusted to care for them" He knew I can't follow, let the kids go, or trust myself.25 May 2025 17:45 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpz7mgundc2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpz5qg462c2iI'm not very good at hiding how I am feeling. I told him how I was feeling this morning as I couldn't get out of it any longer. It just reset the same old convo. Officially we are "working things out"— but we have been here before. I'm still planning my exit.25 May 2025 17:11 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpz5qg462c2ihttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpxxbxoa6c2uHe asked me if there was something he could do to make me feel better, and I said 'no' because there isn't anything that can be done He asked me if I still loved him, and I said 'Yes, silly' because it's the truth I'm grieving.25 May 2025 05:43 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpxxbxoa6c2uhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpxnrn2ejc22I've been crying on and off for the last few days. I've been trying to hide it. He knows there is something wrong. He keeps asking me if I'm alright, and if we are alright. He's been trying to hug me and pet me, thinking it's helpful.25 May 2025 02:53 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpxnrn2ejc22https://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lpxk3vq37k22I have a confession to make. For those of you who know me from Threads, there is a part of me that I have kept very quiet up until now. I have been in a financially and emotionally abusive relationship for nearly 10 years. Yesterday, I decided that I am done.25 May 2025 01:47 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lpxk3vq37k22https://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lp3nfycoc227I really want to play #StardewValley But I agreed to play with someone I went on a date with a while back And while we vibed online, it didn't translate IRL— so I tried my best to gently let them down But now I feel guilty about the idea of playing without them as it feels like cheating13 May 2025 23:32 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lp3nfycoc227https://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lgtuparrlc24So they are chatting on Discord finally 👀🍿 [contains quote post or other embedded content]29 Jan 2025 01:59 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lgtuparrlc24https://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lgqkhjkfu22yNothing gives me as much joy as watching my partner try and shoot his shot with our platonic 3rd 😂 His odds are like 100/1, but the dude needs to get it off his chest 😅 He is so fucking adorable crushing on her though This is so fucking entertaining 💺🍿 #polyamory27 Jan 2025 18:18 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lgqkhjkfu22yhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lgp6beuoos2oSometimes I think to myself: "Am I actually autistic?" And then I go out on a date with an openly autistic person— and oh boi, am I flaming AF 🥴 I don't think I have ever gone on a date before where I wasn't either masking or disassociating the whole time— until now [contains quote post or other embedded content]27 Jan 2025 05:07 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lgp6beuoos2ohttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lgo3re4ecc27On my way to my first date in 10 years 😱 Nothing like a good hot cup of anxiety soup to cure the nerves ☕ [contains quote post or other embedded content]26 Jan 2025 18:50 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lgo3re4ecc27https://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lgilsi7h7k2fSo my love interest and my ex REALLY hit it off hard last night I like to say that I don't care to be in the center of attention— but when I have been the center of attention for two weeks, and suddenly these two people that I care about are suddenly paying more attention to each other? *Pout* /1 [contains quote post or other embedded content]24 Jan 2025 14:21 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lgilsi7h7k2fhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3lghkhftw622h[A Bluesky Drama exclusive] Back when my partner and I started dating, we started off as polyamorous— but we just kinda fell upon monogamy because we were lazy and dating is draining 😅 Anywhos, we have been dipping our toes into polyamory again after 10 years— and it's been... interesting /124 Jan 2025 04:24 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3lghkhftw622hhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3l64q7tptxx2s#Threads in the last few days in a nutshell10 Oct 2024 01:46 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3l64q7tptxx2shttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3kkuww5r5ia2qIt has taken all of my strength to not explain the joke to her, or to joke about her #whoosh moment on Threads as she is a nice lady and a follower of mine 😅08 Feb 2024 04:26 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3kkuww5r5ia2qhttps://bsky.app/profile/habaneroharlot.bsky.social/post/3kcexz26a7k2cHello World! Shoutout to @watsonsarae.bsky.social for the Bluesky invite! Thank you again so much! ♥️23 Oct 2023 00:42 +0000at://did:plc:vgcm4difyn2kfxcgfebxbviq/app.bsky.feed.post/3kcexz26a7k2c